AGGRESSION "O. .. PAIN? 
Today may feel irritable, irascible ... and any reason or controversial enough to jump into a rage against anyone who stands in front! Do not worry, we all have a day like this ... and you know, anything goes! But beyond that impulsive temperament, you should go deeper and find out what makes you suffer to feel and react like that! Oddly enough, the uncontrolled anger, the gratuitous violence or the sudden and inexplicable bad mood are often unmistakable symptoms that you feel hurt by something ... but, first, not be able to find out why! But believe me, most of the time so ...
everyday A typical example is the certain irritability and a low tolerance that parents show to our children, after an exhausting day at work! At every opportunity, we yell or punish, without the specific event might deserve it! When we feel deeply something that worries us, disturbs us or hurts us, our reaction-learned and then spontaneously converted to show anger or rage at every little fact that happens around us ... highlighting our lack of inner balance! This would explain many of the aggressive attitude shown by people and the sum of them up as a violent world in which we live!
And, of course, this solution is simply to try to figure out how to react so deeply! It is true that often there are apparently sufficient reason to feel attacked and defend ... or flaking of the springs of our own aggression! But engine of this state of mind is none other than a flight forward face of pain, because in most cases, this reaction is not part of our ordinary personality. If we do not seek the underlying reasons and we backsliding in that attitude of escape, then it can incorporating them into our regular repertoire, and to form an aggressive nature! A common example of this type of personality is that of "grumpy old " that the first shift, scream and humiliate who crosses his path, for any reason or discrepancy! And a little further, we would find many of the offenders who use their aggressiveness to dominate and submit to others, usually someone weaker ... and that, paradoxically, fear!
Following this aggressive behavior, and free-suffering is often hidden, past or present, and the education received stubborn to hide the pain and vulnerability in the aggressive and arrogant! Again, "watch how you act and tell you how you feel , where appearances are the opposite of what is really inside! And precisely because it is a learned behavior, can be eradicated with sufficient will and perseverance. At last, after all, human beings are free to act how you act, if it is aware of his weakness to be overcome and to realize how damaging that kind of reactions, for himself and for others! If, however, perpetuates the aggressive and impulsive behavior and turns it into a feature more of his character and a bad habit, it will cost to rectify and eliminate those negative reactions!
And in our life, we always have the freedom to decide how to act or not, beyond the internal or external conditions that drive us to act like we act sometimes! Being free is not only master these inner impulses and external stimuli to subject to our true way of being, feeling and acting!
Miguel Benavent de B. prohibited
OF WORDS ... THE FACTS! 
It amazes me that people talk much and do little to improve your life! Let me explain! A while now, everybody talks about life magical , integrated with the soul , to share with others, personal growth ... today are recurring themes in conversations wherever you go! And I guess it has something to do with the proliferation of courses, seminars, workshops, coaching books, practical philosophy and the like! Could it be that, as my good friend Lara, this point in the evolution of world energy-dispersed and isolated before now converge and create a new collective consciousness that is taking shape to evolve into another phase of human evolution? Is the much ballyhooed 2012 the time for change?
Sorry, not trying to be pedantic, but I think, as usual, there is "much ado nuts" in the current human growth! I think that, after years of ideological vacuum and no proposals for new human values, is born a certain tendency toward the self , we should not be confused with hedonism. Yes, it is true that this newly emerging movement and almost global is getting that little by little, people change, going back to ancient human roots and to be more aware and responsible for our human environment, real and natural! And that, as the world is ours, and is a great achievement for mankind!
However, it is also true that many of these people do the seemingly purely personal development task -intellectual to speak in some way, and in that quest, a journey of explorers in search of ... themselves! But know that real change is inside out, the heart to the head, which does not require effort, but flows without noticing! Just let yourself flow ... and always remember that oppose more resistance to the evolution of life (with the intellect, reason or will only human), more unhappiness and more obstacles will feel in our lives! We can also learn to live survived, it is true ... human beings get used to everything and the vast majority get it! But as time passes, this bad habit of deceiving or self-denial and renounce the life we \u200b\u200bdeserve, accumulating sadness, nostalgia for what never was and gloom! And against that little help books, therapy, the alleged master ... although they are a lucrative business supported by misfortune, sickness and emptiness outside! As I say, our world it is much more profitable to produce sick, dependent and addicted, then the expectation crearles cure them, keeping them in suspense and, if possible, eating ... to do something to heal them of truth, for themselves and for all!
Sorry, if I may, I'll tell you about personal concerns in this area, for a moment! One of my recurring thoughts, given my mission in life to help some people to take flight and fend for themselves, is how to help without creating dependency or harmful alleged assume the role of teacher, anyone may be someone else besides himself. It is a personal and professional challenge difficult as helping someone cope at any given moment is to believe in their ability to change your life and grow as a person! And accept that this person will be lost in time, assuming that what people often need is someone to give us a boost first and the rest, have the satisfaction of doing it ourselves. Like everything else, balance is knowing where and when they hinder aid! Do I dedicate myself to my work as a therapist, coach or my writings and books and meet my mission to give that push we all need from time to time? What do you expect me to do life with my mission, and ability, why deny- to help others, without hindering their own growth? I guess it's something that I must solve by myself and in time ... So
and returning to where we were, I invite you to reflect on your life and these new biblical golden calf that may be in it, although they are disguised as saviors, wise men, best sellers, blind or therapists! Do not learn foreign phrases of great people enlightened, or adopt ancient creeds and doctrines to find the meaning to your life! Each person must find their own meaning in daily life, no choice! And please stop talking so much to change our lives, to reach the desired lighting or create new paradigms ... There is more to be hard and dare to take "every day" the appropriate decisions seemingly insignificant, without giving up your true essence , following your personal values \u200b\u200band finding the right balance between your head and your heart! Look no light, just be amazed by the opportunities that life gives you daily and live them as they come, just that you do in your life! While looking away from your destination, you lose sight of the road your life and you stumble back a thousand times in the same stone!
Miguel Benavent de B. Forbidden
